See Post #4. Dashlight issue is most likely dimmer switch as you have discovered. You are chasing your tail pulling the cluster in and out. Not all wires on the 9 pin connector are power wires. Most are signal wires, so they are looking for a ground via the oil sender, fuel sender, temp sender, etc.
The voltage limiter has no impact on the dash lights, its purpose is to drop voltage down from 12 volts to 5 volts for the Temp/Fuel gauge. The round cylinder attached to the power out side of the voltage limiter is a capacitor. Its function is to smooth out the voltage pulses. It is not technically needed. If used it must e hooked up properly, or it can cause the gauges not to work. Not sure why you are still grounding the fuel gauge wires, you already found the problem with the wire from the kick panel to the sending unit, you just need to fix it. Regarding the burnt gas gauge, did you apply 12 volts directly the terminal at the back of the gauge and then ground it? If so, you sent double the voltage thru the gauge, and while solidly grounded you most likely burnt it up. Temporarily grounding the sending unit is fine, but leaving it on for any period of time will send too much current through the gauge and fry it.